Are you intentionally spending time with others to help them grow?
This week, I met with several young leaders. I typically learn more than I teach. They are usually reading something fresh, experiencing something new, and doing something powerful that challenges, stretches, and encourages me. I want to have a learning posture with these young leaders.
For example, this week Andy Sikora taught me about }getabstract. It's the world's largest library of business book summaries. With Get Abstract, you can learn each book's key ideas. Each 5 page summary is presented in a magazine-page format. You can read it in less than 10 minutes. They are logically structured to get the maximum out of your reading time. I'm checking it out. I'm glad Andy and other young leaders teach me.
But I not only want to learn from these young leaders, I want to add value to their lives as well.
I'm learning that the best way to disciple these young leaders is not to come to them with a set of lessons. Discipleship happens best when it is not programatic, but individualized. One size doesn't fit all when it comes to discipling.
I'm learning that the best way to encourage these young leaders is to ask good questions and encourage to them seek their own answers.
Hugh Halter, in an article titled "How I Coach People into True Missional Leadership," says, "Every leader gets lost and blind in their own world and sometimes the most powerful way to influence leaders is by asking the right questions."
Young leaders already know so much. They need to trust that the Holy Spirit is already working powerfully in, through, with, and for them. He is guiding them. They can search the scriptures. They can find resources. They need courage to follow their own God-given instincts. They need to be empowered. They need someone who believes that God is always at work in and around them.
Of course, as an experienced leader, I also need to make contributions and observations based on the Q&A and based on my knowledge, resources, and experience.
So, what questions can we ask to help disciple, encourage, and equip others?
Here are 5 questions I'm seeking to ask young leaders to help them grow.
1. What has God been saying to you and what are you going to do about that? (from Mike Breen)
2. What is your biggest challenge right now and how will you address it?
3. Where are you feeling most joyful, energized, encouraged, and fruitful right now and how
will you leverage that?
4. What conflicts or uncomfortable conversations have you had recently and what is God seeking to teach you through that?
5. What are the aspects of your life that must change in order for God to keep growing your influence or leadership? (from Hugh Halter)
Question: What questions are you asking that help you help others?